Importance of Pre-marital counselling

The below information is again shared by my friend Usha. who is an emerging life coach.

I personally felt this topic is very much important and needed in the present world. It’s always better to get tips/advice from a relevant professional, who is generally non-judgmental.

It’s a fact that only if we live with that person in person we will know who the real he (or) she is. Then why this Pre-marital counselling if you ask, it will give you a better picture of whether this person is ok to live with in person (or) not. And help guide us in many more things about a married life.  

Importance of Pre-marital counselling:

1.      As the name indicates, it’s before one gets married.  Men and women have different physical and emotional needs.  They are generally happy and a bit curious to explore the institution called marriage.

2.     Marriage is an important event in life. It’s a lifelong commitment. However, it has many aspects which many people are not aware of unless they experience it.

3.     Pre-marital counselling helps in this area. This type of therapy prepares the couples in selecting a suitable partner and preparing them mentally for marriage. 

4.     It helps them in building good communication lines between the partners.  

5.     It helps them understand the significance of marriage.  Building good relationships with the partner and all the family members involved.  

6.     It helps partners build realistic goals in a marriage.  Also helps them with the know-how of dealing in a conflict, when it arises, wherein they need to look into each other’s needs and act accordingly. 

7.      It also helps them look into decision-making skills when needed by making suitable and sustainable adjustments.

8.     Maintaining respect for each other, their views and building boundaries, etc are looked upon as well.

9.     Separate sessions and joint sessions are generally conducted to understand individual points of view.   Equal opportunity is provided to each partner to express themselves fully about themselves, their beliefs, fears, expectations, etc.  

10.  A pre-marriage counsellor helps with any existing issues, if any and also identify any potential issues that could arise later and ways to resolve them.

11.  Since we are all a product of our past experiences, pre-marital counselling, most importantly, helps to understand each other as a couple and what to expect out of a marriage and create a marriage that lasts.