Red flags in relationships and ways to address them

 

The information below has been shared by my friend Usha again. who is a life coach.

I personally feel that this topic is important and needed in today's world to have healthy understanding and good relationships.

Therefore, I asked Usha to share her valuable input on this topic. It was a nice gesture for her to share for my blog. Usha, thank you very much.

 Red flags in relationships and ways to address them:

Any relationship can thrive only when there is love, kindness and mutual respect. Identifying a red flag in a relationship is something very important and many times goes unnoticed.

Red flags are warning signs that indicate unhealthy behavior. In the beginning it may look harmless, but in the long run, it could be a problem.

Taking a pause and reflecting on self and others in a relationship is one good way to identify if there is any red flags.

Some of the red flags in a relationship could be as mentioned below:

1. Toxic/abusive behavior
2. Victimisation   
3. Passive/aggressive behavior
4. Lack of respect and trust
5. Overly controlling   
6. Feeling jealous   
7. Anger issues
8. Lack of proper communication etc.  

Any of the above can be resolved with proper identification and communication with our loved ones. If in case we need professional help, that too can be taken to sought in such a way, that we are honest to ourselves and accept things the way they are, without being over emotional or over practical. The right balance is very important. That generally comes only when we see things from different perspectives.

Every human ultimately needs love, respect and a sense of connection. All of us want to be valued. The method of communication sometimes is unhealthy and that needs to be addressed in a healthy and respectful way. We can avoid judging self and others based on our own perceptions. Precautions need to be taken where there is any harm. Boundaries need to be drawn where it is necessary to protect ourselves physically and our self-esteem but deep down its a need for connection and belongingness is what every human desires.

If you ask which red flags can be addressed/corrected via counselling and which can't be

Most of the red flags can be addressed with proper communication and counselling, except for those with symptoms of certain medical disorders. But that too can be parallelly supported by counselling along with medications where the client feels heard and treated with love and respect.